Why Some Things In Life Never Change

Do you find things are not changing in your life as you would want?

Here's a better understanding of what's standing in the way.

The years just fly by. Don't they?

The world keeps changing but many things in our own lives seem to always stay the same.

It's really up to us to make our individual life what we want. If we find things are not changing, things that we wish would be different, then we have to realize it's really up to us to make those changes in our own lives. We really are in control.

Only problem is…some people are in denial and don't think they are in control to make a life change. They think life just happens to them.

I see it differently. I know what the things are in my life that have not changed. I also know those things that I want to change. At least I think I do.

I accept the fact that I am the one who is keeping certain things from changing. I can't blame anyone else for leaving those parts of my life as they are.

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I find the things that are really important to me do happen and they do work out as I intend. I have a strong feeling for the purpose of my life as well as what my important needs are and those aspects of my life are fulfilled.

I know that this is not magic and not luck. It is because I want these things badly enough that I work at it and make it happen.

Why Some Things Never Happen

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My theory is that those things that don't turn out as we think we want might very well be for this reason…We don't want those things badly enough to work at making them a reality.

Maybe we are fooling ourselves and we wake up every day missing some aspect of our life that isn't there. Something that we have always dreamed of having. But it never happened. Or better yet, we never let it happen. More importantly, we never MADE it happen. Simple as that. We are responsible for writing out own life script.

Okay, so give yourself credit for those accomplishments you have indeed achieved. They are real because you really really wanted them. You worked at them and you made them happen.

Forget about those things that are simply not developing. Can you honestly and finally admit to yourself that they are not that important to you? If they were, you would have gotten into gear by now putting your energy towards making them a reality too.

Why We Repeat Certain Patterns

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I just explained my theory why some things never happen, but what about things that do happen in our life that we really don’t like? More importantly, things that we keep repeating and that become a theme of our “life story.”

If you find this happening in your life, don’t be too hard on yourself. There is a good reason for it, and it may have something to do with a painful event in your past that you don’t even remember, an event that is hidden from your conscious mind.

This pain can make us repeat our “life story” until it works for us. But it may never work. We need to heal ourselves, in some way, from the pain we experienced in the past.

Consciously we know there is something else we want in our life. It never happens because we don’t let it happen. So we end up having a different life story than that we would really want.

We may never achieve discovering the reasons from our past that set the stage for the path we follow. But knowing that, we at least need to focus our energy on what we know we want.

Limits To Our Energy

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Look at it this way... we have limited energy. Just like any machine. Save that energy within yourself for the more important aspects of your life.

Pay attention to those parts of your life that are changing and becoming what you want. Those aspects of your life are working because you want them and need them. You are making an effort and putting your energy into those things.

Remember my theory about things that are not turning out as we think we want… We don't want those things bad enough to work hard enough to make them a reality. So my suggestion is to give up on those things and use your energy to work harder on those parts of your life that are already working and make them even better than they are.

Those are the things you really want anyway. Why? Because you already must have done something to bring it about in some way. When you start seeing that you'll know were to ficus your energy.

What I’m saying is this…stop complaining about “what is not” and use your energy to help make “what is” even better.

It all goes up from here. Getting better all the time!!!

Copyright (c) 2011 Glenn Stok